Wednesday, September 28, 2016

day31: you don't need to go it alone ...


Don't be afraid to ask questions. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. I do that every day. Asking for help isn't a sign of weakness, it's a sign of strength. It shows you have the courage to admit when you don't know something, and then allows you to learn something new. 
Barack Obama

Asking for help is a wonderful practice and for some reason many of us feel that it is some kind of sign of weakness.  
(I think it has something to do with the 'puritan ethic') 
But asking for help is a wise and powerful act, on many levels.

One thing that I have learned is that people have different skills and different interests. So, for example,  there may be someone who understands a subject that you are having trouble with and they can help you understand it better.  Or someone has been through a tough experience and has learned some coping mechanisms that they can share with you.

I also LOVE how President Obama points out that by asking for help you open yourself to learning something new! 
(And you know I love anything to do with learning something new!) 

So if you find yourself struggling with a class, an emotion, a situation, a relationship, a decision ... don't get overwhelmed!
 go find someone who can help, be it a friend, a teacher, counselor or professional.  
You don't need to do this 'life' thing on your own!!
love, mom



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Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Day30: back-up always and often!!!



this might be a generational thing, and for your generation backing up is second nature. However if it is not, here is a friendly reminder ... BACK-UP your computer!!!  
It is thoroughly nerve-wracking when you realize how much of our lives now reside in/on these collection of metal and electronics!!! And one never really realizes how much is on their computer until the computer crashes!! So treat your information with respect and care and BACK it UP!!!
love, mom

in case you are not seeing the video ... click here to go to You Tube and watch the lovely Carrie Bradshaw  learn about backing up her computer the hard way!!! XXX













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Monday, September 26, 2016

day29: make your bed ...



"Make your bed - The state of your bed is the state of your head. Enfold your day in dignity. The five minutes you spend making your bed slows you down from your frantic, morning scrambling and creates a calm retreat to welcome you home at night. Plus, making your bed means you’ve already achieved an even more challenging feat: getting out of it."

I know I don't always do this, but I am always happier when I do!! And it is an easy thing to do, especially with duvets and big comforters.  I am not talking hospital corners (unless you feel the need) but just pull up the sheets and blankets, fluff the pillows.  And it is just like brushing your teeth, once it is a habit, you won't think twice about it.

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Sunday, September 25, 2016

day28: happy fall, a magical season


“Life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall.”
F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

Fall has always been my favorite season with all its colors and sounds and smells!!! For me fall offers a fresh start, as Fitzgerald says, there is a freshness, a newness.

A favorite memory of mine is visiting my grandparents, Gommie and Irish, and joining Irish as he tended to the burning leaves that we, the grandchildren, had raked up earlier that day.  

 Make sure you take a moment to enjoy these crisp, bright days as we prepare to hunker down for winter.  
Below are some more quotes/passages that capture some of the magic of the season!! love, mom


Somewhere along the way, I realized that the new year doesn't begin for me in January. The new and fresh has always come for me in the Fall. Ironically, as leaves are falling like rain, crunching beneath my feet with finality, I am vibrating with the excitement of birth and new beginnings.... My year begins in Autumn. ~Betsy CaƱas Garmon, "On birthday cake and pouring oil," 2013 November 5th,

It was one of those perfect English autumnal days which occur more frequently in memory than in life. The rich colours of grass and earth were intensified by the mellow light of a sun almost warm enough for spring... P.D. James, A Taste for Death

.... September is dressing herself in showy dahlias and splendid marigolds and starry zinnias. October, the extravagant sister, has ordered an immense amount of the most gorgeous forest tapestry for her grand reception. Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809–1894), "Autumn," The Atlantic Almanac, 1868


The days may not be so bright and balmy—yet the quiet and melancholy that linger around them is fraught with glory. Over everything connected with autumn there lingers some golden spell—some unseen influence that penetrates the soul with its mysterious power.  Northern Advocate


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Day27: happiness begets happiness ...



Simply this! love, mom
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Friday, September 23, 2016

day26: find the 'adventure' ...


Now that all the newness of the school year is settling down and routines are being formed, it is easy to start being more critical.  Sometimes something you thought would be exciting, like a class, turns out to be not what you wanted and the add/drop period is long gone.  But instead of sitting and stewing, reframe your expectations and find something that you can glean from the class.  It may not be what you intended but every experience is a learning experience.

I believe that as a culture/society/race?!?! we tend to focus on the negative.  Maybe it is a bounding behavior, commiserating on the bad experience, 'that was a waste of time', 'can you believe all the boring homework', 'that was the worst lecture', blah, blah blah.  
However, I find focusing on the negative is a waste of time and energy, so instead of brooding find something that you can take away from the situation, something that will capture your curiosity.  
Believe it or not, being in school is a blessing make the most of it.
love, mom


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Thursday, September 22, 2016

day25: release yourselves


"Having inner peace means committing 
to letting go of self-criticism and self-doubt." 
Sanaya Roman

This lesson has been a lifetime practice for yours truly. But I hope that for you my daughters, I can stop the legacy and encourage you to release yourselves from the draining energy of self-criticism and self-doubt.
Be careful of how you talk to yourself!! self criticism and negativity does not help you in anyway.  And even though it may seem like it,  it's not a good form of self motivation.  All it really does is it just adds more stress.  So release yourself ... love, Mom

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Wednesday, September 21, 2016

day24: relax, you are doing fine ...


“In this moment, there is plenty of time. 
In this moment, you are precisely as you should be. 
In this moment, there is infinite possibility.” 
Victoria Moran

It is so easy to get caught up in worrying, worrying about the future, worrying that you are missing out on something (especially with social media where everything that everyone does it broadcasted in technicolor ...)  or worrying that you are not doing everything you are supposed to be doing!!! 
But remember that you are doing fine at this moment and our lives are full of just the present moment.  You are precisely as you should be, where you should be, doing what you should be.  So take a deep breath, look around and savor this precious moment!! love, mom

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Tuesday, September 20, 2016

day23: be patient with yourself, always!!!


Practice patience with yourself, 
your loved ones, your friends, 
coworkers and even strangers. 
It does not cost you much, 
and the results are priceless.
love, mom


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Monday, September 19, 2016

day22: VOTE, RECYCLE, REUSE, CONSERVE and GET INVOLVED

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“I don’t know how to save the world. I don’t have the answers or The Answer. I hold no secret knowledge as to how to fix the mistakes of generations past and present. I only know that without compassion and respect for all of Earth’s inhabitants, none of us will survive—nor will we deserve to.” Leonard Peltier, Prison Writings: My Life Is My Sun Dance

I think it is easy to feel the responsibility of saving the world, especially when one is more empathic and compassionate. And as I do feel that we must live with reverence to the planet, the universe and to the people and other creatures that live on this planet, it can become thoroughly overwhelming to feel as though you alone must fix the world. 


There are important things that you can and should do, such as:
VOTE, RECYCLE, REUSE, CONSERVE and GET INVOLVED 
with causes and groups that are working toward changes and goals that you believe in, to name a few.

So remember that you don't need to save the world,
but you can be kind, compassionate and 
a responsible citizen of the world.
love, mom

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