Tuesday, July 4, 2017

for your 4th of July pleasure ...

let us not forget ... that freedom isn't free. but this calendar is :) 
Feel free to download and print out this calendar for your personal use this month.


HAPPY FOURTH OF JULY!!!!



p.s. if you are having problems downloading or printing the calendar, 
just leave a comment & email and I will send you a PDF. 


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Thursday, June 1, 2017

day97: laugh in the face of perfection

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    " Done is better than perfect "
    .... this idea is not an easy one for me, as my #100daysofmotherlove has demonstrated! I find many projects & ideas of mine will languish in the shadow of me wanting to get 'it' just right or perfect?!?! and there is a large part of me that has no problem aiming for perfection, but it can make turn around times quite lengthy. And when you take a larger view of a situation, getting it finished and into the world is better than having it stowed away in the recesses of your imagination. Also when it comes to assignments and research papers, there is usually a drop-dead due date, so it may behoove us all to get more comfortable with the idea of 'better done, than perfect.'
And to help ease us into this newer state of mind I discovered:
(a fun and helpful website, if you are curious.) below you will find 13 points to consider when working on a project .... 
  • There are three states of being. Not knowing, action and completion.
  • Accept that everything is a draft. It helps to get it done.
  • There is no editing stage.
  • Pretending you know what you're doing is almost the same as knowing what you are doing, so just accept that you know what you're doing even if you don't and do it.
  • Banish procrastination. If you wait more than a week to get an idea done, abandon it.
  • The point of being done is not to finish but to get other things done.
  • Once you're done you can throw it away.
  • Laugh at perfection. It's boring and keeps you from being done.
  • People without dirty hands are wrong. Doing something makes you right.
  • Failure counts as done. So do mistakes.
  • Destruction is a variant of done.
  • If you have an idea and publish it on the internet, that counts as a ghost of done.
  • Done is the engine of more.
from 

I definitely have a lot of work to do in this area, so I am writing this as much for me as I am for you.  Try it out and tell me what you think, I would love to know what you think is realistic and what just sounds good.  

and as always ...
love, mom

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Wednesday, May 31, 2017

happy birthday mr. whitman!


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Monday, May 29, 2017

today, let us recognize and celebrate ...



How important it is for us to recognize and 
celebrate our heroes and she-roes! 

Maya Angelou


And let us recognize the many different battle fields on which our she-roes and he-roes fight, surrender, are victorious and perish.  

Our current day wars are not easily defines or clearcut, they wage on foreign soil and here at home.  

The battles rage between religions, genders, political parties, the haves and the have-nots, the young and the old, the thoughtful and the thoughtless, the empathic and the selfish. 

On this Memorial Day let us take a moment to think of all those who are lost and let us remind ourselves of what is important and where and how we can be she-roes and he-roes.

PEACE TO ALL!! 

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Tuesday, April 4, 2017

day96 : stay away from plastics!!! as much as possible ...

'red alert cocktail dress ...' (2006)

I'll tell you what me scares me is plastic. Plastic bags and plastic bottles and these things. Why does my water have to be in a bloody plastic bottle? The landfill and the ocean. And I don't know, I'm just terrified with the proliferation of plastic. 
Helen Mirren

'plastic for dinner (video) https://youtu.be/Ltw0x_S4Ok8

I am with Helen Mirren, our addiction to plastic terrifies me!!!

Eliminate the uses of plastic as much as possible - the more that is learned about the effects of plastic on our bodies and our planet, the more horrific the situation is.

I honestly don't know where to start to talk about how bad plastic is for us ... 
  • Plastic chemicals can be absorbed by the body—93 percent of Americans age six or older test positive for BPA (a plastic chemical). 
  • Some of these compounds found in plastic have been found to alter hormones or have other potential human health effects. 
  • Buy food in glass or metal containers; avoid polycarbonate drinking bottles with Bisphenol A
  • letslassothemoon.com
  • Store food in metal or glass containers, reuse glass jars for leftovers.  They also make great carriers for lunch ...
  • Avoid heating food in plastic containers, or storing fatty foods in plastic containers or plastic wrap. 
  • Use natural fiber clothing, bedding and furniture
  • When possible, shop in bulk, this lessens plastic packaging
  • Skip the disposable razor


The growing consumption of bottled water raises questions about the product’s economic and environmental costs. Among the most significant concerns are the resources required to produce the plastic bottles and to deliver filled bottles to consumers, including both energy and water.

Transporting and Recycling Bottled Water 
More energy is needed to fill the bottles with water at the factory, move it by truck, train, ship, or air freight to the user, cool it in grocery stores or home refrigerators, and recover, recycle, or throw away the empty bottles. The Pacific Institute estimates that the total amount of energy embedded in our use of bottled water can be as high as the equivalent of filling a plastic bottle one quarter full with oil.
www.5gyres.org : MORE OCEAN, LESS PLASTIC:
The 5 Gyres Institute is a non-profit 501(c)(3) organization that empowers action against the global health crisis of plastic pollution through science, art, education, and adventure.

and to emphasize Helen Mirren's point, watch this short video from ATTN: about our 'addiction' to plastic. Below is the link to twitter 

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Sunday, April 2, 2017

day 95: be authentic, brave, wonky; not perfect

'torqued and tethered ...' (2013) exhibited at the SSAC
Striving for perfection is
the greatest stopper there is. 
You'll be afraid you can't achieve it. 
It's your excuse to yourself for not doing anything. 
Instead, strive for excellence, doing your best. 
Laurence Olivier

Trying to be perfect is a trap. Perfection is the enemy of the individual, the authenticity and the unique.  It is also an impossible objective, unattainable, and can only fuel the fires of the inner-critic.

So don't chase perfection. Instead aim to always give it your best shot, be brave, take risks, get out of your comfort zone.  By taking risks one grows and learns more about themselves, they discover their talents, their fears, their passions.  And if you are afraid of making a mistake or an error you will not take risks, you won't stretch yourself and you will miss out on enriching your life and being more you! and that would be a loss for both you and the rest of the world because each of us has much to offer, if we are only allowed to explore, flounder, fall, get up, dust ourselves off and take again.


come on, be imperfect! i dare you! XXXX
love, mom






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Monday, March 27, 2017

day94: have passport ready and waiting!


Perhaps travel cannot prevent bigotry, but by demonstrating that all peoples cry, laugh, eat, worry, and die, it can introduce the idea that if we try and understand each other, 
we may even become friends. 
Maya Angelou

I can not stress enough the importance of travel;
going abroad, living in different climates and cultures, figuring out how to navigate not know the native language, trying different foods and flavors.
Traveling offers so much to the traveler and to their own native country upon their return.  as Maya Angelou so explains in her quote, by traveling one sees the common thread of humanity.  

I also believe that traveling exposes us to uncomfortable situations that help us to expand our empathy and compassion for those who are different.  I believe if you are ever in a situation where you can not understand the language, even the most basic information is unattainable to you, that you will be more understanding of others who are having difficulties, be it with language, culture or customs.

And seeing the world can be done on the cheap.  Don't think that you need loads of money to see the world, there are Youth Hostels and train passes.
Take advantage of any travel opportunity, abroad or here at home.  The United States offers many different cultures and cuisines within its own borders.  However I do believe there is something profound about not standing on your native land, physically being out of your comfort/native zone.

I also believe it is important and a good practice to learn hello, please and thank you in the native tongue of the country that you are visiting! (merci)

Below is the poem Gate A-4Naomi Shihab Nye (1952)
I feel as this poem addresses some of the reasons I believe it is so important to travel. Enjoy, love, mom.


Gate A-4
Naomi Shihab Nye, 1952

Wandering around the Albuquerque Airport Terminal, after learning
my flight had been delayed four hours, I heard an announcement:
“If anyone in the vicinity of Gate A-4 understands any Arabic, please
come to the gate immediately.”

Well—one pauses these days. Gate A-4 was my own gate. I went there.

An older woman in full traditional Palestinian embroidered dress, just
like my grandma wore, was crumpled to the floor, wailing. “Help,"
said the flight agent. “Talk to her. What is her problem? We
told her the flight was going to be late and she did this.”

I stooped to put my arm around the woman and spoke haltingly.
“Shu-dow-a, Shu-bid-uck Habibti? Stani schway, Min fadlick, Shu-bit-
se-wee?” The minute she heard any words she knew, however poorly
used, she stopped crying. She thought the flight had been cancelled
entirely. She needed to be in El Paso for major medical treatment the
next day. I said, “No, we’re fine, you’ll get there, just later, who is
picking you up? Let’s call him.”

We called her son, I spoke with him in English. I told him I would
stay with his mother till we got on the plane and ride next to 
her. She talked to him. Then we called her other sons just 
for the fun of it. Then we called my dad and he and she spoke for a while
in Arabic and found out of course they had ten shared friends. Then I 
thought just for the heck of it why not call some Palestinian poets I know
and let them chat with her? This all took up two hours.

She was laughing a lot by then. Telling of her life, patting my knee,
answering questions. She had pulled a sack of homemade mamool
cookies—little powdered sugar crumbly mounds stuffed with dates and
nuts—from her bag—and was offering them to all the women at the gate.
To my amazement, not a single woman declined one. It was like a
sacrament. The traveler from Argentina, the mom from California, the
lovely woman from Laredo—we were all covered with the same powdered
sugar. And smiling. There is no better cookie.

And then the airline broke out free apple juice from huge coolers and two
little girls from our flight ran around serving it and they
were covered with powdered sugar, too. And I noticed my new best friend—
by now we were holding hands—had a potted plant poking out of her bag,
some medicinal thing, with green furry leaves. Such an old country tradi-
tion. Always carry a plant. Always stay rooted to somewhere.

And I looked around that gate of late and weary ones and I thought, This
is the world I want to live in. The shared world. Not a single person in that
gate—once the crying of confusion stopped—seemed apprehensive about
any other person. They took the cookies. I wanted to hug all those otherwomen, too.

This can still happen anywhere. Not everything is lost.


Naomi Shihab Nye, “Gate A-4” from Honeybee. Copyright © 2008 by Naomi Shihab Nye. 


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Wednesday, March 1, 2017

day93: you have the right to feel safe!!!


You have the RIGHT, 
the responsibility, in fact, 
the OBLIGATION to yourself 
to feel/be safe,
to be respected,
to be heard,
to feel good about who you are and what you do!

If there are people in your life that challenge any of these rights, 
you have the obligation to either walk away from this toxic person/relationship, or if you can't leave the situation, then you need to get help from someone who has power in the situation.

You have every right to ask for and receive what is due to you. In our society, we are still burdened with the theory that a woman is a bitch if she demands to be treated fairly and stands up for herself.  these views are changing, but there is a long way to go and with the current political landscape, women have been dealt a major setback. 

So I want you to remember that you have every right to feel safe, heard, appreciated, respected, and I hope you are fortunate enough to feel loved, by other people than ME!! Because I am sure you know that I LOVE you both to the moon and then to infinity!!!

love, mom


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Saturday, February 25, 2017

day92: remember to relax and just let go ....

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When I let go of struggle,
 I float.

let go of struggle, relax, go with the flow ... simply this!
love, mom


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Friday, February 24, 2017

day91: WD-40 is your friend ....

'tools ...' kitchen table series, pen and ink (2017)


“Single ladies, we are not Damsels in Distress…

we are Divas that Impress!” 
Mandy Hale

Don't be a damsel in distress!! 
Know how to do things around the house and with your car.  
Be self sufficient as much as possible.  

One way I have always kept true to this idea is that I try never to travel with more than I can carry.  I always wanted to be able to move my luggage by myself.  That doesn't mean never being helped with my luggage, porters can be very helpful and do remember to tip them.  But what I do mean is that if need be, for what ever reason, that I could move myself and my luggage by myself.  Or at least I could move me and what was important by myself (I think this practice was harder when I was traveling with little ones :).

When thinking about car maintenance,  I believe it is prudent to call  AAA when you have a flat tire, but know how to do other small automotive fixes.  Learn how to fill your car's wiper fluid, how to change the wiper blades and check the oil, to name a few. I would change the headlight bulbs in our van, however the cars are getting more and more electronic making it more necessary to go to a garage for even moonier repairs, however learn to do what you can.

And lastly get to know the phenom of all household maladies ... (drumroll please): WD-40.  

This is can can be your savior in the kitchen, bathroom, garden, garage, car, basically anywhere.  
It is truly astounding how many things this little can can do.  Below is a partial list of what this oil can do.

So there are just a few suggestions to help you be a DIVA that IMPRESSES.  It is also satisfying to be able to take care of your surroundings and not need to wait to be saved!!

love, mom


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